By the age of 50, the average man will have lost half an inch in length from his penis.
By the age of 27, 97% of men can’t have erections 1/5 as much as when they were 20.
67% of women say they are unhappy with their partner’s penis size.
88.7% of men would increase the size of their penis if they knew how.
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THE VAST amount of campaigns on the web and in mainstream advertising that promote penis enlargement is deeply disturbing. In selling the various methods said to increase penis size, unscrupulous companies twist relevant statistics, portray half truths, make no reference to side effects or risks involved, slate all other existing methods of penis enlargement, and above all, prey on a man’s vulnerability and insecurity.
Matters of size have been of relevance for many centuries, with cave drawings and predated statues from various cultures depicting men with unusually large phalluses. Regard for the male penis has also evolved within a cultural context – for example, in some cultures it is believed that God resides in the penis, thus a larger organ means more room for God, in other cultures the greatly endowed are seen as more likely to impregnate a woman.
A large penis today, particularly in Western cultures, has commonly been prized as a symbol of masculinity, male-male competition, virility, potency, strength and capacity for sexual pleasure; but the penis is similar to other body parts: it comes in various shapes and sizes. With this in mind, is it any wonder why for many men the size of their penis is a sensitive issue?
For most men, questioning and doubting whether their member is the right size occurs at some point in time, usually during puberty when a young man is discovering his sexual potential. How do men put their apprehensions to rest? Could it be that various means of comparison bolster their concerns? Certainly for young men, who are still developing physically, and more importantly, mentally, though men of all ages can be affected.
Whilst changing and showering in locker rooms, young men may get a glimpse of their peers’ endowments, but this isn’t a very practical means of judging how their own measures up. Research suggests that a man may perceive the sexual organ of another to be substantially larger than his own when in fact it isn’t; this occurs merely because of the viewpoint he is looking at it in – straight on at the other, versus looking down at his own. To add to this, there may be a difference in size between two non-erect penises, however in an erect state the difference in size is often very little or none at all.
During and after puberty, pornographic material serves as a means of sexual education and stimulation for many men. Considering porn stars’ generous size as a means of comparison, without realising that their size is regularly technologically enhanced, may prove disconcerting for those who are in limbo.
Even engaging in the so called ‘men’s talk’ may be futile because men commonly over-exaggerate their size in the nether region.
Seeking feedback from women with whom one has shared sexual experiences may prove just as inaccurate as all other sources. A woman’s judgment has been found to be highly influenced by the extent to which she has enjoyed the sexual encounter. Apart from this, a woman’s regard can be swayed by factors such as, sexual experience and perceptions of what it is that a partner wants to hear.
Many resources available that provide information about the male ‘sexual’ organ often discuss matters of size, and specific measurements for length and girth (circumference) are at hand. Apparently, the average length is between 5 and 7 inches and the average girth is between 4 and 5 inches. With such unyielding dimensions, is one to assume that anything even slightly less would signify an under-average or in other words, a small penis?
As men develop into adulthood, anxiety and uncertainty about endowment size may wane completely; such angst may diminish though the penis may remain a sensitive focal point; or, it may be that self-doubt and apprehension about matters of size become plaguing and relentless.
Some men may even suffer from something known as Body Dysmorphic Disorder, whereby they become completely engrossed in imagined flaws in their appearance; in the case of penis size, they may imagine that they have an extremely small penis when in fact they don’t. Avoiding sexual relations, panic attacks and depression are some other states that may very well arise when one’s preoccupation with penis size goes overboard.
Research has shown that most men who are susceptible to penis enlargement methods are of an ‘average’, or ‘above average’ size. In fact, the majority of men report that irrelevant of their size, they wouldn’t mind increasing their measure by an inch or two.
‘Longitude’ and ‘Extend’ are penis enlargement pills; ‘Erectone’ and ‘Black Label Power’ are penis creams and there are also lotions, tonics, patches, and magnets. There are pricey resources promoting the method of jeqing, which show how a man may non-erotically massage his member in a milking motion with 100 to 200 movements for approximately 30 to 60 minutes a day. There are penis pumps or vacuum devices, gadgets placed on the penis, which create suction at the base causing blood to flow and temporarily remain in the penis.
There are weights and stretching devices like the ‘JES Extender’ and the ‘Penistretcher’, which are contraptions that create a straining, pull on the penis. There is also the high-cost option of surgery that, for increased length relies on cutting the ligaments that suspend and anchor the penis within the body; and for increased girth, fat cells from other parts of the body are injected into the shaft of the penis or even strips of tissue can be surgically placed in the penis.
Surprisingly, even though a lot of these methods are extremely painful, not to mention risky, worldwide, millions of men are lured and sucked into resorting to the highly publicised penis enlargement.
Isn’t it about time to debunk the myths surrounding the penis and its size? Isn’t it time to recognise that the penis is a part of the body, just like the nose, the arms and the fingers? Apart from atypical cases of genetic or biological problems, why should any size be labelled ‘abnormal’? Is it really the size of a man’s penis that determines his masculinity, virility, potency, strength and sexual pleasure?
Is a man with a large penis more favourable or better than a man with a smaller one; are character, personality and lovemaking performance not of much greater importance? Hasn’t the question of what matters more to women – size or quality – been exhausted. The answer to all of the above can be found in the ancient and wise words of the Karma Sutra.
As teachings point out, ‘the perfect penis size is never absolute; it is in proportion to the woman’s vagina size, and in the same way that a couple should be emotionally compatible, there is also penis size and vagina size compatibility. By and large, sensitivity to partners’ needs, cultivating sensual moods and intimacy, experimenting and learning about ones sexual capabilities can in fact go a longer way than merely concentrating on the size of a penis’.
This weekly column, written by Cherine Komatina (BSc in Psychology, currently MSc in Counselling Psychology, LMU (London Metropolitan University), seeks to explore individual and social issues; any questions or comments from readers are encouraged and welcomed. 24 Vass. Voulgaroctonou, P.O. Box 21144, 1502 Nicosia; Fax: 22-676385; e-mail: [email protected]. Please make any correspondence attention Health Page
